AMORES
Words by Griselda Arriola | Artwork by Denise Ruiqué Anrubio
Once in a conversation with a guy I had a mega crush on, mi amor pasajero, we spoke about love and different relationships that form from love.
Someone had mentioned that your first love is your best and greatest love. No love will ever be as great as your first love. I thought differently.
I mentioned that in life we have many loves. Tu primer amor, un gran amor, amores pasajeros, un amor imposible y el amor de tu vida. Tu primer amor is always fun, its the first time we experience strong feelings for another individual.
All of these experiences are new and exciting. It’s kinda of like your first car. It may not be the best, in reality its a junker since the beginning, and it is not meant to last.
But like that old hoopty, it takes you places and allows you to experience excitement and joy. It takes you to places you have never been or seen. You experience it wish a fresh set of eyes and although it is short lived and will soon be replaced, it is a lot of fun.
Un gran amor is a good love, a love that understands you, it feels right. It’s cozy and you invest in it and put effort towards it. With time it doesn’t last but it was definitely a good one. One that you will always remember as one of the greatest.
Amores pasajeros, de esos llegan muchos. Pero esos amores son cortos, no duran lo suficiente. It’s just a short lived love that served its purpose and ended. Maybe it teaches you a lesson, or fulfills a much desired experience. Pero igual como llega de pasada rápido se va.
Un amor imposible, el amor que es lindo. Ese cariño que es orgánico and effortless. It’s a love that isn’t forced, a love with true meaning. Pero por alguna razón nunca se se convierte en algo mas. Hay mucho sentimiento pero nunca sale una relación seria de el. Es imposible ese amor.
Y el amor de tu vida, el amor que te cambia. Tu forma de sentir, the way you look at the world. The love that makes you feel like you can change the world for the greater good. Si tienes muchísima suerte tu primer amor can very likely be el amor de tu vida.
No two loves are the same. They shouldn’t be compared to one another. If they can be seen and experienced for the individual loves that they are and the purpose that they served, we can all experience many different loves.
In a later occasion at a party I met with mi amor pasajero again. We danced and he asked, “Que dijiste esa vez sobre amores? Was I ever considered in any of those categories?”
As I swayed in his arms while we danced, the only truth I could speak was, “you are mi amor imposible, just let me have my dance.”